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An Exploration of the Aetiology of UK Women’s Perinatal Mental Health Problems.

(Originally written as an assignment for Masters in Public Health/Global Women’s Public Health)

Nature of Problem:

The perinatal[i] mental health (PMH) of women[ii] in the UK is an area of significant concern, needing investment and prioritisation to protect both women and their families’ lives. Poor mental health affects not just mothers: it can affect the child’s physical and emotional health[1], as well as other members of the familial unit[2]. Poor PMH can impact a foetuses’ heart rate[3], cause pre-term birth[4], and cause epigenetic DNA changes[5]. Prevention, detection, and treatment therefore are all crucial to support wider health.

PMH problems[iii] (PMHP) affect up to 20% of perinatal women[6]. This large sample, mixed-method study of perinatal women had responses from women already likely to be thinking about perinatal mental health, however the NHS[7] [8] support these statistics, making over-representation an unlikely influencer. Suicide is the biggest cause of maternal death in the first year post-birth and the second biggest in the first forty-two days post-birth[9]. These statistics have been collated by MBRRACE-UK from NHS reporting, cross-referenced with government resources, and analysed by multiple Expert Reviewers; the methodological rigour underpins the robustness of findings. PMHP cost the UK £8.1 billion per year[10]; economic modelling which includes a robust systematic review and meta-analysis following NICE standards, increasing internal and external validity. Three-quarters of this cost is associated with childhood morbidity[11].

There are regional variances in PMH in the UK. The North East has a referral rate to support services of 35% compared to the East’s 15%[12]: there is a similar regional response rate of respondents comfortable talking about their mental health with a healthcare professional and the report concludes the difference is likely due to (lack of) care received rather than need. The UK is not alone in its concerns over PMH. High Income Countries have a prevalence of PMHP in 7-15%[13] of perinatal women, Low-Middle Income Countries have a higher frequency of 16-25%[14]. These figures are not as recent as the standalone UK percentage so although the UK seems to have a higher rate it is possible that all countries have crept up over recent years. It is also possible that countries without the infrastructure to support large data collection under-report their prevalence.

Impact of Risk Factors:

Gender is a key determinant of good mental health: in England one in five women and one in eight men suffer a mental health disorder, with this number increasing in women over recent years but remaining stable in men[15]. PMH is clearly a factor in this gender disparity; it is possible that if a gender burden were removed in all other aspects of mental health determinants a disparity in prevalence between genders would still exist due to the perinatal period.

Birth trauma is a key trigger of PMHP, affecting around 30%[16] of women who have given birth. Factors influencing development of PMHP following birth trauma include those who have experienced any type of previous life trauma, an intervention-heavy birth, perceived poor care from their healthcare team, and those whose babies are born prematurely or are admitted to neonatal units[17]. Race, ethnicity, age, low socio-economic standing, and lack of empowerment in the birth-room are themselves a risk factor of developing these outcomes[18] [19] [20].  There is a paucity in research regarding prevention of birth trauma – reducing the root cause of an outcome rather than attempting to change the outcome itself may be the necessary action needed. There is also a disparity between both the topics that have been researched and the findings of the research carried out, and the experiences that women and midwives relay. To understand why such a disparity exists, and why preventing birth trauma has not been studied in any great detail needs the context of the UK’s maternity services. Obstetricians are, by their very specialty, more likely to only experience complicated births and have therefore normalised medical births in a way many midwives have not. Obstetricians are also more likely to conduct research, and their medical, male-orientated research is more likely to be funded than research into promoting the physiological norm due to the patriarchal nature of healthcare[21]. The biases of the researcher, therefore, result in research that misses some fundamental areas of lived experience. This is a situation that is changing, however it has become quite a deep-seated divide and the recent media coverage[22] of the newly released Ockenden Report[23] using the phrase “cult of natural birth” shows just how prevalent and entrenched medicalised birth has become. It is also possible that birth trauma figures are even higher as individuals may not count ‘feeling traumatised’ as a specific mental health problem if a diagnosis of PTSD has not been made, and a diagnosis might not be sought when the narrative around birth expects it to be a traumatic event[24].

Ethnicity is another key consideration of PMPH. Minority ethnic groups have a higher prevalence of PMHP while simultaneously being less likely to have them detected or treated[25]. Suffering a higher burden of poor mental health already from other determinants such as poverty, inequity in education and healthcare access, English as a second language, and community and cultural environments factor in these figures, however much current research ignores racism – both institutional and direct – in being a trigger for poor PMH. Since the 2018 MBRRACE report [26] a light has been cast on racial inequities in maternal mortality (including mental health) and grass-roots campaigns like FiveXMore[27] are championing change. Challenging deep-seated inequalities is an ongoing and lengthy process; the uncomfortable dissonance felt by maternity service workers has not fully receded to a point where research can be conducted into this with bias eliminated. It is, perhaps, not the ethnicity of a woman that is the determinant of poor mental health per se, but rather the intersection of a lifetime of socioeconomic factors that are underpinned by structural racial discrimination mixed with a healthy dose of individual ethnically-motivated prejudices. Consideration also need to be given to cultural stigma around mental health, which may exacerbate illnesses[28] [29] and ethnicities such as Travellers who commonly underutilise healthcare[30] meaning true data may be under-represented.

Strong links exist between socioeconomic status and mental health illness[31], a link continuing in the perinatal period[32]:  This study by Ban et al shows women in the most deprived quintile are up to 2.63 times more likely to develop PMHP compared to those in the least deprived quintile. It is, perhaps, unsurprising that women who have existing financial pressures would find them exacerbated by having a new addition to the household and that this increased pressure could trigger a PMHP. Linking in not meeting breastfeeding goals (discussed below) adds an additional financial pressure of circa £10 per week for a can of formula powder – doubly critical that when a woman wants or needs to breastfeed she is supported to do so. The large-scale cross-sectional analysis by Ban et al also correlates age and socioeconomic status: the older a woman is and the more deprivation she is in, the higher her chance of developing PMHP. The large sample size of 116,457 increases validity; although it is possible that those younger, those in higher deprivation or those in some minority ethnic groups are under-represented as they may be less likely to seek intervention.

Society has a role in supporting PMH. New mothers face pressure about how they and their baby should be feeling and behaving from multitudes of sources with many losing self-efficacy, triggering episodes of poor mental health due to a lack of empowerment. The decentralisation of extended families can result in a higher reliance on parenting books whose profit-driven priority is to sell a problem to be fixed by their method; reliance and ‘solutions’ that can trigger poor PMH[33].  How a mother feeds her baby is also a risk factor in triggering a PMHP. While breastfeeding is a protective factor against postnatal depression[34], poor mental health can be triggered if a mother does not meet her breastfeeding goals[35] [36].

The current Covid19 pandemic is limiting access to mental health services. A rapid response study has found that depression has increased by 26% and anxiety by 43% in perinatal women during the pandemic compared to perinatal women before the pandemic. Families feel they do not know where to access information and support[37] and service changes have contributed to suicide deaths[38]. With pandemic stressors on top of the ‘normal’ risk factors for poor PMH there is a big risk of a huge mental health crisis, swamping already underfunded and under-resourced services. Where usually women would have face-to-face appointments that would provide the opportunity to detect issues, these are not always happening (occurring virtually, where women have indicated that they are not comfortable talking about mental health issues over the phone[39]) or at all (where the healthcare team have been redeployed). 

Preventative Strategies:

Current detection of PMH relies on three access-points: pro-active requests for support; positively answering a wellbeing request from their healthcare professional; an existing complex mental health need resulting in a referral to a specialist pathway[40], however these are not without their potential pitfalls, the biggest being the woman being capable of vocalising her need – something which may be hard during a PMHP.  The NHS has prioritised mental health in their Five Year Forward View for Mental Health[41], transforming their Perinatal Mental Health Care Pathway[42] guidance, investing to meet greater need, and greater significance on mental health being placed on all contact points of perinatal women, including the newly contracted six-week postnatal maternal check via GP services[iv][43], although as this started at the peak of the pandemic the service has been oft-overlooked[44] this year.

Detection of PMHP could be improved by services strengthening their links; the NHS is not an homogenous entity and siloed working[45] between services creates gaps that women can slip through[46], especially in an under-resourced, over-worked environment where wellbeing checks become tick box exercises through time constraints, relationships between healthcare professional and service user do not have the opportunity to develop, and referred services have lengthy waiting times if a woman does manage to get that far. Healthcare professionals who interact with perinatal women need to have specific PMH training to help identify issues and be able to confidently manage a PMHP caseload in line with evidence-based pathways.

Prevention is better than cure: optimising preventative strategies is needed to reduce the burden of PMHP. The intersection and correlation of risk factors means that reducing prevalence of PMHP is no small task, starting with reducing long-term health inequalities in at-risk groups: gender, socioeconomic status, race, ethnicity, and LGBT+ status. If a woman is less likely to develop a mental health problem in a wider context it will only help in a perinatal context. However, much is to be done specifically in the perinatal period too. Reducing birth trauma – changing the narrative around how childbirth is ‘horrendous’ so people expect better[47], reducing unnecessary intervention[48], establishing strong relationships through continuity of carer[49], increasing doula use[50], good quality feeding support[51], and supporting new mothers instead of adding pressure to them[52] will all reduce a woman’s chance of developing a PMHP. Indeed, continuity of carer during pregnancy, the intrapartum and postnatal periods is of great benefit not just in preventing birth trauma and detecting mental health problems themselves, but also in detecting other psychosocial factors that can increase a woman’s chance of developing PMHP. Intimate partner violence increasing during pregnancy[53], poor social support, financial pressures and life stresses are all risk factors for developing PMPH[54] [55] and can all be reduced by a woman being cared for by a trusted midwife over the entire period.

The cost of funding sufficient PMH services is £0.28 billion per year compared to an annual cost to the UK of £8.1 billion[56]  – a compelling argument for public health strategic intervention. Key to all prevention strategies is the co-creation of services with experts-through-experience, paying particular attention to the most at-risk cohorts of women giving birth. World-beating PMH services are useless if mothers cannot attend[v]; women’s lived experiences and needs must be listened to. Although the NHS commits to co-production of services in all the guidance documented in this essay, the reality is that services are so fragmented and under resourced that co-production is often lip service at best.

It is inevitable that some PMHP will exist no matter how stringent the prevention and detection measures put in place are. Treatments need to be timely and accessible, and they need to take into consideration the family constraints a new mother has on her, including high-needs inpatient services. If drug treatment is deemed necessary it is important that prescribers consider a woman’s desire to continue breastfeeding and ensure that the prescribed medication is suitable for breastfeeding mothers, otherwise not meeting her breastfeeding goal could trigger poor mental health.

Peer support as well as medical care is a useful intervention in the treatment of PMHP[57]. It can help reduce feelings of isolation, validate feelings, and provide signposting to specialist services. Peer support services tend to be charity or third-sector led, a wary consideration that may lead to reduced public spending on essential services as the gaps are plugged by volunteers. Peer support is also a useful tool in encouraging under-represented groups to seek additional support, helping to validate feelings in demographics where taboos exist about talking about mental health[58].

There is a wealth of data showing facts and figures around PMH: qualitative research is needed – and the importance of findings acknowledged – to prevent and detect PMHP and create services fit for purpose at treating. Only a multi-factorial position that puts women at the heart of the framework will reduce prevalence of PMHP.

Conclusion

PMHP are a changing burden on women in the UK. Women bear the brunt of the burden for obvious gender reasons, and the burden is increasing over time. Birth trauma is increasing, driven by increasing medicalisation of birth, advancing maternal age, and pandemic restrictions[59] [60]. Non-white-British population is increasing[61], and although work is being done to combat health inequities in ethnic minority populations it is yet to be seen whether this will offset an increase in racially motivated prejudice[62]. Women continue to bear the burden of socioeconomic deprivation, a trend not declining[63]. The intersection of all these risk factors seems set to continue to adversely impact the burden of PMH. Existing strategies for prevention need to be strengthened and optimised to reduce prevalence – including society changing to meet its obligation in reducing the burden on women.

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[i] Using the widely used definition being from conception to one year post childbirth unless explicitly stated.

[ii] This report recognises that not all people who give birth are women, however for stylistic purposes ‘women’ has been used throughout.

[iii] ‘Problems’ has been used rather than ‘disorders’ as disorders implies a medical diagnosis which may not be true for all women.

[iv] A check that has been done for years but has not been contracted – therefore GP’s paid for and obliged to complete – until April 2020.

[v] A conversation with a new mother in 2019: a need specialist PMH support was detected, a local service available and had capacity – the mother unable to attend as babies not allowed to attend appointments. Her partner worked and could not take time off without financial impact. Financial strain would have added to the poor mental health situation. No family available to assist and baby was exclusively breastfed anyway.

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Discussing the Impact on Pregnant Families in the UK Following Restrictions in Maternity Services Due to Covid-19.

[Initially written and submitted for a postgrad course which goes someway to explaining the dryness, and the full way of explaining the lack of swearing]

The Covid-19 pandemic has impacted most lives. While every sector has suffered detriment and every negative consequence is of course harmful, maternity services[1] is potentially the locus of the most far-reaching consequences, causing stress not just to the affected persons but also harm to the new generation of ‘lockdown babies’ including through transgenerational trauma[i]. This essay will examine the restrictions in place within maternity care, discuss their impact on pregnant families and question why new parents have been so badly let down. As the situation is ongoing and rapidly changing, if insufficient evidence exists from the UK, research from other high-income countries has been used. The essay also highlights the disparity in trust given to different types of evidence; we have countless real-world experiences[ii] [iii] [iv] which run the risk of being dismissed by the scientific community, policy makers and governments for not conforming to the hierarchy of quantitative evidence.

Maternity service restrictions were implemented early in the pandemic, affecting most NHS Trusts with obstetric units.

Area of Service Provision AffectedPercentage of Trusts Implementing Restrictions
Reduction of antenatal appointments70%
Partner restrictions at non-routine antenatal appointments95%
Gestational diabetes screening pathway70%
Partner restrictions at 12-week scan90%
Partner restrictions at 20-week scan88%
Partner restrictions in labour (inc. all labour, early labour, induction of labour)86%
Home birth or midwifery-led unit provision59%
Reduction of postnatal appointments56%
Partner restrictions at postnatal appointments50%
Remote consultation methods89%

                        Table One: Restrictions on access to maternity services March/April 2020[v] [vi]

These figures show the conditions of those who responded (42% and 63% respectively); it’s possible that the on the ground reality was different – for better or worse, although it seems likely that those who did not respond would be those enforcing stricter restrictions, especially taken together with the lived experiences already referred to and elsewhere in this essay. The impact on the amount of and type of care provided during the first wave of the pandemic is evident, and these constraints are continuing (43%) or would be reinstated if cases rise again (24%)[vii]. It is notable that 32% of Trusts did not work with service users to co-produce the implementation of their policies even though there is an obligation on the NHS to involve patients in service production[viii]. That 89% of Trusts use remote consultation methods, and 32% of Trusts do not co-create services runs the risk of ‘losing’ families who do not have access to these mean of communication, either through ownership (those in poverty) or safely (those in coercive relationships).

Data shows most perinatal families in the UK have had restricted service provision, but more important is how they have been affected by them. 38% of pregnant women are concerned about getting reliable, accurate information about their pregnancies without having face-to-face contact with their care providers, 34% believe care at birth was not how they had planned because of the restrictions, and 38% believe that the restrictions impact their ability to cope[ix]. Worryingly, 86% of Trusts experienced a reduction in emergency antenatal care being sought [x]. Data from April to June 2020 shows the stillbirth rate rose from 24 to 40 from the same period in 2019[xi] and although causation is not yet linked to the decrease in care being sought, clinicians do seem to be treating it as such[xii].

Partner exclusion is having a big emotional and physical impact on both parents. Women have better birth outcomes through reducing induction of labour, reducing labour length, decreasing intervention rates, reducing maternal pain, reducing fear, reducing postnatal depression rates and improving birth satisfaction[xiii] when properly supported by their partners; without their presence there is more chance of adverse outcomes occurring. Partner participation in maternity care is so important to health outcomes that the World Health Organisation have reiterated their call for their continuous involvement[xiv]. It is plausible that excluding co-parents from pregnancy and birth will impact their ability to bond with their child and increase paternal postnatal depression[xv] [xvi]. Their being ‘locked out’ of maternity care is not merely a question of a nice-to-have not happening but a health crisis in and of itself.

How babies are fed has also been impacted by the pandemic:

Area of ConcernPercentage of mothers affected
Lockdown helped protect breastfeeding relationship41%
Felt support was lacking27%
No longer exclusively breastfeeding41%
Of the above, felt ready to stop breastfeeding14%
Introduced unwanted formula69%

Table two: impact of maternity restrictions on breastfeeding[xvii]

The lack of infant feeding support is not merely a perception of parents: infant feeding teams have closed their services entirely with staff redeployed from the service; reduced service capacity; changed service provision away from face-to-face; and/or restricted access to those in most need[xviii]. Not breastfeeding has a health impact on the child and on the mother, both physically and mentally[xix] [xx], this reduction in service could have costly long-term health impacts on mother and baby, costing the NHS financially in the long-term[xxi] as well as costing the family to use formula milk: effectively disadvantaging lower-income families to a greater extent and increasing socio-economic disparity.

Unsurprisingly an increase in perinatal anxiety has been observed: women reporting higher levels of depression and anxiety, disassociation, post-traumatic stress and health anxiety for themselves and their unborn child[xxii] [xxiii] [xxiv]. 68% lack confidence that they could find appropriate support for their mental health[xxv] with 14% being reluctant to talk about their mental health over the phone[xxvi]. This is a huge mental health crisis on top of an existing one: suicide is already the biggest cause of maternal death in the first year post- birth, the second biggest in the first forty-two days post- birth and the fifth biggest during pregnancy[xxvii] –the removal and changes to services on top of increased stressors could create a massive mental health crisis in mothers. Indeed, we have already sadly seen the consequences with four women dying by suicide between March and May 2020 whose deaths were wholly attributable to changes in service provision[xxviii]. Maternal stress hormones can affect children as well as mothers, causing low birth weight, earlier gestational age, altered neurobehavioural development, psychopathology, poorer cognitive and socioemotional development and increased neonatal stress hormones in the child[xxix] [xxx].

The pandemic also appears to be widening the gap in care that already vulnerable groups receive, putting babies in those groups at greater long-term disadvantage[xxxi]. Women from Black and Asian backgrounds, and those living in areas or households with poverty are more likely to be infected with and have more serious cases of Covid-19[xxxii]. Clinicians should be considering women in these categories with a lower threshold of risk[xxxiii] and implementing a four-point action plan[xxxiv] to offer additional support to women of these ethnic backgrounds, however in many Trusts this is not happening[xxxv]. Fewer Black and Asian women feel they have the information they need during pregnancy and postnatally than White women, and Black women are less likely to have accessed information and support[xxxvi]. These factors will almost certainly have an adverse impact on families.

It is important communities work together to support maternity services to protect health[xxxvii] yet we saw earlier that 32% of Trusts are not working with their users to create or implement new policies, causing concern that the service is very quickly losing its co-production culture[xxxviii], potentially leading to a long-lasting quietening of women’s voices – ground that has been hard gained[xxxix]. Not listening to or involving those with lived experience of the issues causes unnecessary harm: Liverpool Women’s NHS Foundation Trust wrote and shared information with no involvement from their community. The backlash received ran into thousands of social media comments and an appearance in the press – not helpful to the information they were trying to release[xl] or the anxiety of the women in their care. Is one of the barriers to the consideration given to maternity services, its users, and the importance of the messages they give across one of the gender imbalances within NHS senior teams[xli]?

Keeping people safe from the disease is rightly a priority for the NHS, but what happens when the cure is greater than the disease[xlii]? Separating the familial unit when receiving bad news, through labour and after a child is born is cruel and has a demonstrable impact on the health of all. Despite affecting so many across the UK, the impact of these restrictions barely reached the nation’s consciousness until grassroots campaign #butnotmaternity launched in September, igniting attention from the Daily Mail[xliii]. There has been no government-fronted campaign to ease harm, as there has been with the hospitality industry’s Eat Out to Help Out campaign. It is easy to conclude that ‘women’s issues’ are lower in the food chain than ‘men’s issues’ of drinking in a pub from the coverage given to both in the media[xliv] and at policy-making level – especially when there is no immediate visible economic benefit.

The situation is so new and fast-changing that research must rely on rapid-return forms of evidence; there just has not been time for longer-term research to take place. However, bountiful qualitative evidence exists; to ignore it would be a huge disservice to those lived experiences.

There has been a big impact from the restrictions on pregnant families in the UK, and there continues to be so for many while the pandemic continues. The immediate impact is clear to see, however the longer effects may take years to be realised. Does the lack of women’s voices at a senior level impact the value given to righting this wrong? And we must give thought to low- and middle-income countries where the impact must surely be felt more deeply[xlv]. The consequences could be reduced by finding a way to lift restrictions without compromising safety. With so many already affected, it seems necessary to ensure there will be sufficient healthcare provisions, especially in mental health, to deal with the consequences of these restrictions.

[1] From the initial booking in appointment through antenatal, intrapartum, and postnatal care to 10 days, alongside specialist infant feeding and perinatal mental health support.

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5 Ways To Parent Your Way Over The Holidays

With the holidays approaching our thoughts are turning to nights in front of the fire with our loved ones, twinkling lights and laughter filling the room, adults sipping mulled wine while the children play excitedly with their new eco-friendly toy which they’re extremely grateful for. Ha! The reality for most of us is Christmas24 on marathon, several arguments a day and plastic beeping toys discarded in favour of wrapping paper. And along with this rather more real family picture if you’re a new parent or one going through a challenging situation you might be feeling anxious over the public parenting you’ll be doing over the season.

In a truth universally acknowledged by every single parent that has ever existed, you will be given unsolicited advice from the moment your pregnancy becomes public knowledge. While this is often easy to ignore when it’s a stranger in your local supermarket telling you to start giving rusks to your 3 week old, it’s a lot more difficult when it comes from somebody you love and whose heart you know is in the right place. Dealing with the ‘helpful’ advice can be difficult enough but the added anxiety that can build in anticipation of the interference can set even the most confident parent’s nerves on edge. So here’s your guide to navigating the tricky dynamics whilst maintaining your authenticity as a parent and avoiding a family drama that would rival the great GravyGate of 1998™.

Pick your battles

It helps to think ahead and if you don’t want to spend all your time sniping at your Great Aunt Beryl then working out in advance what you’re willing to let slide is a great tool. Knowing that you’ll allow the sugar content to rise but bedtimes will remain steadfastly the same, or that you’ll let your minimum two vegetables per meal requirement go but you won’t enter into any discussion about how yes you’re still breastfeeding your 8 month old and have no plans to stop thank you very much will do wonders for your mental health. Pre-planning the areas that you’ll concede will keep your blood pressure stable and has the added bonus of allowing people to think they’re getting their own way, at least sometimes.

Enlist an ally

A problem shared is a problem relative that doesn’t get both barrels over the turkey for pushing you right over the brink. Having someone who can step in to distract and deflect a conversation or who can reaffirm your stance is invaluable. This ally might not be who you’d expect; look for someone who allows what’s happening to wash over them – a genial personality or a predilection for gin is ideal.

Have an escape plan

Sometimes biting your tongue proves too much and you just need space before you explode. Whether you conjure up a forgotten item that’s desperately needed from a shop at least 45 minutes away, a catch-up with a friend who you only have one more opportunity to see before they leave for Timbukto, or a child who suddenly and unexplainably will only have their nap while being driven round the outskirts of your town, some time on your own away from the source of contention will do you wonders. Plus you’ll get to scroll through Facebook and eat rustled After Eights without interruption.

Practice your defence

Freedom of speech might exist but that doesn’t put you under any obligation to listen, let alone act, on what’s being said. Especially if that advice goes against your principles or is so old-fashioned it’s downright dangerous. Unfortunately much advice that’s given to parents by well-meaning individuals comes from what they did when they were raising their young folk; early weaning, dipping dummies in anything let alone whisky, leaving them to cry, feeding them on a four-hourly schedule, creating a rod for your own back are all things older generations like to trot out and are all things which are unequivocally, backed-up-by-science wrong. If a dignified silence is too much to ask have a couple of stock phrases that you can resort to. “Thanks for the advice, that doesn’t work for us”, “We’ve researched our methods and this is what we believe is right for our family”, “We don’t believe that’s going to work for us” all work and the slightly ruder but definitely final word is “You’re not the parent so butt out, buttinski”. Practice makes perfect!

If all else fails, remember you are your child’s advocate.

Often when we attend family gatherings we revert back to the dynamics that existed in our own childhoods, making it hard to speak up or against the adultier adult. But your child knows only you as the ultimate authority in their life and sometimes that must give us the strength to act in their best interests. That could mean speaking loudly and insistently that yes even a little bit of milk will hurt your CMPA child, or stepping in when Granny insists that your unwilling child simply must kiss her goodbye when you’re trying to teach the concept of consent from an early age. Some things transcend politeness and will help shape your child’s identity so let this give you strength when dealing with tricky situations.

Time with family is the greatest gift over the holiday season, along with liebkuchen and pigs in blankets, but it’s rarely as idyllic as our favourite Christmas films would have us believe. Stay calm, prepare in advance and if all else fails dive right into the bottle of Irish cream lurking at the back of the cupboard. Good luck!

If You Only Read Some Breastfeeding Articles, Make Them These

I know that statistically most of you reading this while pregnant will want to breastfeed. And I know that most of you won’t reach your goals. That’s what the evidence says. Bizarrely, the research also tells us that antenatal breastfeeding education doesn’t help women fulfil their goals. But I see and hear women every day say “Why did nobody tell me…” about some aspect of breastfeeding or another, which is why the new Stockport Birth Services antenatal course programme includes a breastfeeding session. And even then I won’t have been able to say everything I want to.

I can’t overstate that for some women breastfeeding is hard. I don’t want to put you off, but there’s this idea out there that because breastfeeding is ‘natural’ it’s easy. Nothing could be further than the truth! Remember when you learned to walk? (Well, no, not unless you have hyperthymesia). But trust me – you fell down, got up, fell down, got up, fell down, got up then eventually cracked it and didn’t fall over again until you became a student and cracked open the White Lightening. So if you feel like you’re struggling and ‘failing’ then take heart – many of us have been there and there’s help available. If you can’t get to a group, or you’re not local this is a rather fab Facebook group who I see give excellent information (generally I’d say be careful of where you get your info from online as you don’t know their creds, but on this occasion you can trust the source)

First we need to unpick some of the misinformation out there. Yes your baby needs feeding again. Yes you are making enough milk. Yes it is normal. No your baby doesn’t need to wait 4 hours between feeds. No you don’t need to time a feed from one side for 20 minutes. This is one of the most important blogs you’ll read about breastfeeding and the obsession over the infant feeding intervals. Followed by this one about how long to feed for. I’ll also direct you here to here we question the idea of a ‘good baby‘ and how the idea of it is complicit in damaging the breastfeeding relationship. 

However you feed your baby, responsive feeding is the key and all parents should be helped to understand what that means. 

As a final note here, sometimes feeding worries continue through to the time to wean your baby onto solid food, and sometimes this comes from the mistaken belief that it will help you get some much-needed extra sleep. Here’s a look into it.

There’s literally thousands of blogs I could point you towards on this subject, but these are my favourites.